Seriously, if you need help because you feel like you are going to harm yourself, call one of the numbers above or find a crisis place in your area and go there, including going to the Emergency Room. It is no good to simply sit there in your pain and suffering.
With this all in mind, it is necessary now to speak to people who might suffer from suicidal thoughts but are not on the verge of harming themselves. These people, people like myself at the moment, need to develop a plan of action so that when their mind does turn to suicide and make it a more realistic option, then you have some plan in place to actually save your life.
First, you need to find a partner. When you become suicidal, you are not thinking straight. This is the problem. Thus, it is not wise or prudent or really fair to ask yourself to carry out your plan of action to save yourself all by your lonesome. Thus, you need to find a partner. This can be anyone that you trust, but you have to trust that they will do the hard things necessary to get you into treatment. This can be a spouse, a romantic partner, a sibling, a parent, or a good friend. This is a person you need to be able to call or go to when things get terrible and they will put your plan of action into motion.
Third, develop a plan for where you go in the clase of an emergency. Talk to your counselor and/or psychiatrist about the best place for you to go. It might not be where you think. But, find that place and go to that place. For me, it is 20 miles away, a psychiatric hospital dedicated to in-patient care that is associated with my psychiatrist’s practice. And, because they are part of my psychiatrist’s office, they have all of my insurance information available and make it that much easier to get through the process.
[One thing you will notice is that the goal is to try and make everything easier in the midst of crisis.]
First, know who is going to pick you up. This is usually your partner or a person that can legally sign for you as you are discharged. It is important that they are there as you obviously need a ride home and you also need support.
Second, ease back into life. Don’t go to work, don’t try and do the housework, don’t try and do the things you normally do. Take it slow. Stuff will get done or you’ll eat Chinese out of paper cartons. Whatever. Don’t sweat it. And make sure your partner or your spouse or someone is there to help you along the way.
Third, once you do ease back into life, keep everybody abrest of what you are feeling and how you are doing. It’s important to let everyone know you are doing ok because they worry. Or, at least, everyone who is close to you and who loves you and who knew you were in the hospital. It was also not an easy time for them and letting them know how you are doing, even if it is extremely poorly, help everyone in the long run.
And, when necessary, repeat.